Okay seriously, it’s time to get real. If someone walked up to you and spanked you because you were having a bad day, what would your reaction be? Kidding, I don’t need you to tell me.
You’d be pissed right off. Not happy, it wouldn’t change your mood, or make you want to hang out with that person, it would make you plain ol’ mad.
Now tell me, when you’re having a bad day, or you’re angry or you would much rather be in bed, watching your favorite show and not dragged around running 10 errands you could care less about, what would you like someone to do for you? I’ll tell ya what I’d like.
If I’m mad, let me be. Give me a quiet space, or maybe even ask what’s wrong or how you can help. Doesn’t that sound way more reasonable? Doesn’t it make so much more sense than walking up to me and giving me a good ol’ spank to change my mood?
Or how about those days where all you want to do is watch a good show, drink a glass of wine (or milk) and instead you have to run around all day long. And, a temper tantrum hits. Yea, you’re asking a child to do adult stuff and then discipling him by spanking him because he can’t handle it?
Have you ever tried getting down to their level and reasoning with them before letting your frustration get the best of you and spanking them instead? Boy, it works. And let me tell you, my kids respond way better to a chance to explain themselves vs a smack to the bum for having a bad day.
A spanking is a result of a frustrated reaction. Not a superior position or needing to show your child who’s boss. They know you’re their parents, after all they call you mom and dad don’t they? You cook their meals and wash their clothes right? They don’t need a reminder. What they need is someone they feel confident with talking to them so they have a chance to talk out their feelings.
So drink a glass of whatever you choose, take a breath and find new techniques. or better yet, go look in a mirror and practice the death stare, that outta do it.